by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting
Lots of parents want to show their kids empathy, but what’s the best way to do that? How do we really let our kids know “I understand how you feel” and give our kids the experience of us parents, really “getting” them? We are going to propose something that may be a...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting
Jason’s been reading The New Toughness Training for Sports by James Loehr. You might think a book about “toughness” is about how athletes tolerate more pain and discomfort during training or competing. But it’s not, toughness is about athletes performing their best...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting
I stopped dead in my tracks when I read the following sentence about anger: When we are angry, three things are happening: We are upset because we are not getting our needs met; We are blaming someone or something else for not getting what we want; We are about to...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting
From one of our readers: I like the concept of making agreements with our children, but I need help to make an agreement with my kids for: Keeping their hands to themselves (not poking, tickling etc.) when the other says “no.” Listening when a person asks...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting
“Don’t do anything that isn’t play.” – Marshall Rosenberg When I first read this years ago I thought, “What do you mean, Marshall? I’ve got a ton to do. I’ve got a job to go to, dishes to wash, laundry to fold, meals to cook, a house needs cleaning, and a sick...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting
In our family (and in our preschool classroom) instead of rules we have agreements. An agreement is something that everyone in the family agrees to do, created collaboratively, written down and signed. At home, we keep our agreements in a 3 ring binder in the living...read more
