by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting
As I write this, I’m sitting at the dining room table with the cat on my lap, drinking some coffee. It’s raining lightly outside (Of course! It’s Oregon!). There are signs of spring everywhere. The plum tree outside the window is full of white blossoms. Yellow and...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | empathy, parenting, tools
If you’re like me, when you’re in a “good place” you just don’t get triggered easily. As humans, if we’re not stressed or tired, things just don’t bother us that much. You can probably tolerate just about anything when you’ve had a full night of sleep, eaten, and...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting, tools
Once a year I spend a weekend with a bunch of my mom friends on the coast. We talk, walk, eat, play games, sit in the hot tub, watch movies, stay up late, and sleep in. Last mom’s weekend, we started talking about things (and people) that “trigger” us. But the...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | collaboration, parenting
A few months ago we talked to KJ Dell'Antonia. KJ’s a mom of 4 and a former New York Times reporter. She’s an excellent write; she’s wise and interesting. And her recent book, How to be a Happier Parent, is a great read. KJ lives on a farm, there is a LOT of work to...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | holidays, parenting
In a few days we leave to go “home”! :) It started out feeling like a fun adventure. Now it sounds like sheer craziness… A 30-hour train ride to get to LA for Christmas, then a plane flight to Texas for New Year’s and another flight to get home. Visiting family on...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting
My kids are not always easy kids. I’m not always a great mom to them. But I’ve started to reframe things. You see, my usual way of being with my kids is that I worry, I see things I want to “work on” in them, and I try to get things done. I don’t pay attention to the...read more
