by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting, tools
Recently I got a question from a mom…. “I want some ideas on coaching my son with friendships… Sometimes he gets left out and then he gives up.” No one wants to be left out! So… How can we help kids get included in play and build resilience? In the video I share with...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | compassion, parenting
Does your child ever judge herself harshly? Maybe you’ve seen your child make a mistake–like forget her homework, break something accidentally, or oversleep–and then you could tell she was mentally beating herself up for it. Maybe she even said, “I’m so stupid. I’m...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting
As I write this, I’m sitting at the dining room table with the cat on my lap, drinking some coffee. It’s raining lightly outside (Of course! It’s Oregon!). There are signs of spring everywhere. The plum tree outside the window is full of white blossoms. Yellow and...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | empathy, parenting, tools
If you’re like me, when you’re in a “good place” you just don’t get triggered easily. As humans, if we’re not stressed or tired, things just don’t bother us that much. You can probably tolerate just about anything when you’ve had a full night of sleep, eaten, and...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting, tools
Once a year I spend a weekend with a bunch of my mom friends on the coast. We talk, walk, eat, play games, sit in the hot tub, watch movies, stay up late, and sleep in. Last mom’s weekend, we started talking about things (and people) that “trigger” us. But the...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | collaboration, parenting
A few months ago we talked to KJ Dell'Antonia. KJ’s a mom of 4 and a former New York Times reporter. She’s an excellent write; she’s wise and interesting. And her recent book, How to be a Happier Parent, is a great read. KJ lives on a farm, there is a LOT of work to...read more