by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting
A friend of mine shared some interesting research… People who KNOW they will experience a painful electric shock have less anxiety and distress than those who are told they have a 50% chance of experiencing one. Or said in another way, humans would rather experience...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | compassion, parenting
This one is for you if you have kids at home (like we do) who are overly self-critical. It’s hard to be a teen these days, especially if you are a girl. There is a lot of pressure on teens to look a certain way, to be popular, to achieve in school and sports and...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting
Last week we wrote to you, saying that we are educating ourselves about race, listening to Black people and People of Color to hear their experiences, and talking–perhaps awkwardly and imperfectly–about race and social justice… This is not easy work, but it’s...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting
It’s hard to find the words right now. I feel shaken and shattered. I want to talk to you, but I feel scared and uncertain writing you this message. The truth is, I don’t know if I’m qualified. Another message from a white person? Really? How could I possibly...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting, resilience
Even if we wanted to, we couldn’t shield our kids from what is going on in the world. They see it all happening on their phone or the computer or people talking about it. It’s a lot to take in, for them and for us. When there is so much that is unfair, unpredictable,...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | communication, parenting
Cecilia here. In our family, I have a tendency to want to “fix” things. I’m a doer, a peacemaker, a nurturer, and sometimes I just can help myself. If someone is upset, I want to help them calm down. If there is an argument, I want to find a solution. If someone is...read more