by Cecilia Hilkey | compassion, parenting, research
When most parents think of “secure attachment”, we focus on the connection between a parent (usually the mother) and a child. We recently had a conversation with Dr. Dan Siegel, and the way he described attachment blew our minds. He explained that, because humans have...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | compassion, parenting, resilience
I’m having one of those days.You’ve probably had them too…When you have too much to do, and too little time to do it. It started with a fitful night of sleepA morning argument with a family member that I blamed myself forThings took longer than anticipatedAnd are not...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | compassion, parenting, tantrums
When my child struggles, misbehaves or acts out, I can sometimes get into the trap of blaming myself. I’m guessing that you can relate to this too. I know I’m not alone in this because in my work with parents, self-judgment and blame are a pretty common pattern....read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | compassion, empathy, parenting
We had the honor of talking with Dr. Dan Siegel (which is always mind-expanding!) Dr. Siegel says that effective parenting involves more than just responding to our children's behavior, but also to their inner thoughts and feelings. How do we tune into our child’s...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | compassion, parenting
This one is for you if you have kids at home (like we do) who are overly self-critical. It’s hard to be a teen these days, especially if you are a girl. There is a lot of pressure on teens to look a certain way, to be popular, to achieve in school and sports and...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | compassion, parenting
Does your child ever judge herself harshly? Maybe you’ve seen your child make a mistake–like forget her homework, break something accidentally, or oversleep–and then you could tell she was mentally beating herself up for it. Maybe she even said, “I’m so stupid. I’m...read more
