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Our best advice when it’s tough with kids:breathe, laugh, dance, sing, hug, call a friend. Be gentle with yourself, you’re not done growing up yet. This won’t last and you are not alone.
3 Things To Do When Your Kids Trigger You
No matter how old your kids are you’re going to have feelings about them and their behaviors (unless you’re a Zen master!). Here’s what is happening at our house right now… Our oldest daughter is learning how to drive… which brings up all sorts of feelings for Jason...
What to do when a child name calls, hits or kicks
During a recent Q & A call, Natalia described a situation with her son… “At school, some kids hurt him accidentally, then he called them names. I’ve already tried telling him to ignore the situation, use breathing, or use his sensory box to calm down. After he...
How to comfort a child when you are maxed out
During a Q and A call recently a mom–of a 3 and a 1-year-old–asked us a question… She said… “I get so mad at my daughter. I know she’s just being a 3-year-old kid but I can’t stop myself and when I reprimand her I sound like my mother. Today my daughter was crying,...
How to stop worrying about your child’s behavior, in 30 seconds
Us parents, we worry about our kids. It’s part of our job description. A little bit of anxiety is a good thing; it focuses our attention, helps us prioritize, and improves our performance. But a lot of worry is not useful, especially when it oozes out during a...
Research says, just be “good enough” parents
I am naturally a worrier. I worry about parenting…. Are my kids are going to turn out okay? Will they do okay in school? Am I doing enough for them? Did they eat enough? Are they getting enough sleep? And I worry about everything else… Are the plants doing okay? Are...
What to do when your child is being left out
In less than 3-minutes you’ll hear about the research and practical tools we used to help kids get included in the game.
Teaching Kids Self-Compassion
Does your child ever judge herself harshly? Maybe you’ve seen your child make a mistake–like forget her homework, break something accidentally, or oversleep–and then you could tell she was mentally beating herself up for it. Maybe she even said, “I’m so stupid. I’m...
Bringing Fun Back Into Family
As I write this, I’m sitting at the dining room table with the cat on my lap, drinking some coffee. It’s raining lightly outside (Of course! It’s Oregon!). There are signs of spring everywhere. The plum tree outside the window is full of white blossoms. Yellow and...
Triggered? Recover in 30 seconds by doing this
If you’re like me, when you’re in a “good place” you just don’t get triggered easily. As humans, if we’re not stressed or tired, things just don’t bother us that much. You can probably tolerate just about anything when you’ve had a full night of sleep, eaten, and...