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Our best advice when it’s tough with kids:breathe, laugh, dance, sing, hug, call a friend. Be gentle with yourself, you’re not done growing up yet. This won’t last and you are not alone.
Fix Negative Self-talk in Teens – Dr. Kristin Neff
This one is for you if you have kids at home (like we do) who are overly self-critical. It’s hard to be a teen these days, especially if you are a girl. There is a lot of pressure on teens to look a certain way, to be popular, to achieve in school and sports and...
Racial Justice: What we're learning
Last week we wrote to you, saying that we are educating ourselves about race, listening to Black people and People of Color to hear their experiences, and talking–perhaps awkwardly and imperfectly–about race and social justice... This is not easy work, but it’s...
White parents don’t talk about race. This needs to change.
It’s hard to find the words right now. I feel shaken and shattered. I want to talk to you, but I feel scared and uncertain writing you this message. The truth is, I don’t know if I’m qualified. Another message from a white person? Really? How could I possibly...
3 Steps to Raising Resilient Kids
Even if we wanted to, we couldn’t shield our kids from what is going on in the world. They see it all happening on their phone or the computer or people talking about it. It’s a lot to take in, for them and for us. When there is so much that is unfair, unpredictable,...
When teens don’t want to talk
Cecilia here. In our family, I have a tendency to want to “fix” things. I’m a doer, a peacemaker, a nurturer, and sometimes I just can help myself. If someone is upset, I want to help them calm down. If there is an argument, I want to find a solution. If someone is...
How to Stop Mom Shaming
Even before the pandemic, 90% of American moms and 85% of dads felt judged (New York Times). Is this true of just American parents? I don’t think so because we talk with parents all over the world. I taught a parenting class in the Philippines and one of the most...
The importance of emotional intelligence
For a lot of us right now, our children’s school experience is different than normal. I’m sad about some of the things that our kids are missing out on, but I’m optimistic that this generation of kids will be okay… even if they’ve had less academic learning than in...
Post-Traumatic Growth for Kids and Parents
Parents are going through a lot these days. If you’re like me right now, the highs are high and the lows are low. And every day still feels a bit roller coaster-ish. One of the things that I’m really hopeful about is the research on post-traumatic GROWTH. Recently we...
How to keep kids safe online
How are you doing? A lot of us parents are still sheltering-in-place and schooling our kids at home, right now. If you’re in that boat with us, I’m sending you a big virtual hug. If you are a first responder or work in the medical field, I’m sending you a double hug....